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Diagnosis

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Every patient’s story starts the same way. It starts with them being fine. It starts in the “before”. They cling to this moment, this memory of being fine, this “before”, as though talking about it may somehow bring it back.
Treatment

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There’s this person, in my head. He is brilliant. Capable. He’s me, only so much better.

And I’m afraid I’ll never become this person in my head, because something keeps getting in my way.

MOVE!!
Wellbeing

The Animal in All of Us

We like to think that we are rational beings. Humane. Conscientious. Civilized. Thoughtful. But when things fall apart, even just a little, it becomes clear. We’re no better than animals. We have opposable thumbs, we think, we walk erect, we speak, we dream.
Wellbeing

Forgive and Forget

In life, only one thing is certain, apart from death and taxes. No matter how hard you try, no matter how good your intentions, you are going to make mistakes. You’re going to hurt people. You’re going to get hurt. And if you ever want to recover, there’s really only one thing you can say…
Healing

Wounds

People have scars in all sorts of unexpected places. Like secret road maps of their personal histories, diagrams of all of their old wounds. Most of our old wounds heal, leaving nothing behind but a scar. But some of them, don’t.
Wellbeing

Blind Spots

Many people don’t know that the human eye has a blind spot in its field of vision. There’s a part of the world that we are literally blind to. The problem is, sometimes our blind spots shield us from things that really shouldn’t be ignored.
Wellbeing

Karma

Okay, so, sometimes… even the best of us make rash decisions. Bad decisions. Decisions we pretty much know we’re going to regret the moment… the minute… especially the morning after.
Wellbeing

We Never Grow Up...

After careful consideration and many sleepless nights, here’s what I’ve decided: There’s no such thing as a grown-up.
Diagnosis

Be Thankful

Gratitude. Appreciation. Giving thanks. No matter what words you use, it all means the same thing. Happy. We’re supposed to be happy. Grateful for friends, family, happy to just be alive… whether we like it or not.
Treatment

Pain

Pain comes in all forms. The small twinge, a bit of soreness, the random pain. The normal pains we live with every day. Then there’s the kind of pain we can’t ignore. A level of pain so great that it blocks out everything else. Makes the rest of the world fade away.
Wellbeing

Fear

A couple hundred years ago, Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. “Never leave that ’till tomorrow,” he said, “which you can do today.”
Diagnosis

The Future

We spend our whole lives worrying about the future, planning for the future, trying to predict the future. As if figuring it out will somehow cushion the blow. But the future is always changing. The future is the home of of our deepest fears, and our wildest hopes.
Diagnosis

Trauma

Doesn’t matter how tough we are. Trauma always leaves a scar. It follows us home, it changes our lives, Trauma messes everybody up, but maybe that’s the point: All the pain and the fear and the crap. Maybe going through all of that is what keeps us moving forward, it’s what pushes us.
Wellbeing

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Heaven. Hell. Limbo. No one really knows where we’re going… or what’s waiting for us when we get there. But the one thing we can say for sure, with absolute certainty… is that there are moments that take us to another place. Moments of heaven on Earth. And maybe for now, that’s all we need to know.
Healing

Wish

We all get at least one good wish a year, over the candles on our birthday. Some of us throw in more, on eyelashes, fountains, lucky stars. And every now and then, one of those wishes comes true. So what then? Is it as good as we’d hoped?
Wellbeing

A Little Bit Less Alone

We enter the world alone, and we leave it alone. And everything that happens in between, we owe it to ourselves to find a little company. We need help. We need support. Otherwise, we’re in it by ourselves. Strangers, cut off from each other, and we forget… just how connected we all are.
Wellbeing

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If you’re a normal person, one of the few things you can count on in life is death. We’re born, we live, we die. Sometimes not necessarily in that order. We put things to rest, only to have them rise up again. So if death is not the end, what can you count on anymore?
Healing

Wars

Some wars are never over. Some end in an uneasy truce. Some wars result in complete and total victory. Some wars end with a peace offering. And some wars… end in hope. But all these wars are nothing compared to the most frightening war of all. The one you have yet to fight.
Healing

Reality...

Once upon a time. Happily ever after. The stories we tell are the stuff of dreams. Fairy tales don’t come true. Reality is much stormier. Much murkier. Much scarier. Reality. It’s so much more interesting than living happily ever after.
Healing

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Don’t wonder why people go crazy. Wonder why they don’t. In the face of all we can lose in a day… in an instant… wonder what the hell it is that makes us hold it together.
Wellbeing

Some Days...

Some days, the whole world seems upside down. And then somehow, improbably, and when you least expect it, the world rights itself again.
Wellbeing

It's OK

Deep down, everyone wants to believe they can be hardcore. But being hardcore isn’t just about being tough. It’s about acceptance. Sometimes you have to give yourself permission to not be hardcore for once. You don’t have to be tough every minute of every day. It’s okay to let down your guard.
Wellbeing

Change

Change… We don’t like it, we fear it. But we can’t stop it from coming. We either adapt to change, or we get left behind. It hurts to grow. Anybody who tells you it doesn’t, is lying. But here’s the truth: Sometimes, the more things change, the more they stay the same.
Healing

Making History

Some people believe that without history, our lives amount to nothing. At some point, we all have to choose. Do we fall back on what we know? Or, do we step forward, to something new? It’s hard not to be haunted by our past. Our history is what shapes us, what guides us.
Healing

The Unexpected

We all think we’re going to be great. And we feel a little bit robbed when our expectations aren’t met. But, sometimes, our expectations sell us short. Sometimes, the expected simply pales in comparison to the unexpected.
Healing

Fantasy VS Reality

The fantasy is simple. Pleasure is good. And twice as much pleasure is better… That pain is bad, and no pain is better…
Healing

Time...

Time flies. Time waits for no man. Time heals all wounds. All any of us wants is more time… Time to stand up… Time to grow up…

Time to let go…
Healing

Life

Life is not a spectator sport. Win, lose or draw, the game is in progress, whether we want it to be, or not. So, go ahead, argue with the refs, change the rules… cheat a little, take a break… and tend to your wounds. But play. Play. Play hard. Play fast. Play loose and free.
Healing

Celebrate

Maybe we’re not supposed to be happy. Maybe gratitude… has nothing to do with joy. Maybe being grateful means recognizing what you have for what it is. Appreciating small victories. Admiring the struggle it takes simply to be human.

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